tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post6792288847869449270..comments2023-12-24T07:03:54.887-04:00Comments on Oasis Writing Link™: La Bamba; Confidence and Self-ImportanceCynthia Pittmannhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12656761837022197235noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-42029695749010517472019-09-16T18:48:02.778-04:002019-09-16T18:48:02.778-04:00It's awesome to go to see this site and readin...It's awesome to go to see this site and reading the views of all friends regarding this piece of writing, while I am <br />also eager of getting experience.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-29942977570408022372019-07-15T03:33:01.625-04:002019-07-15T03:33:01.625-04:00It’s very informative and you are obviously very k...It’s very informative and you are obviously very knowledgeable in this area. 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It is what i was searching for.I would like to suggest you that please keep sharing such type of info.Thanks <a href="https://onlyfreedommatters.com" rel="nofollow">Only Freedom Matters</a><br />Muhammad Hassanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04282277249728542966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-22555123816003580512009-05-03T20:56:00.000-04:002009-05-03T20:56:00.000-04:00This was a great post and had me thinking a lot ab...This was a great post and had me thinking a lot about various times in my life when I chose to be a wall flower instead of stepping out to be noticed. There is somthing to be said for wall flowers though. <br /><br />I really stopped by to say a personal thank you for your comments on my blog earlier. It was an appreciated gesture at this time. Thanks again.Bogeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04621010857974456199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-89033445076648596482009-05-03T13:35:00.000-04:002009-05-03T13:35:00.000-04:00Hi Elizabeth, thank you for your kindness. My memo...Hi Elizabeth, thank you for your kindness. My memory was when my daughter was in kindergarden...she's in 11th grade now. We have gone through so much from that time...I know what you mean...it's easier to fight your child's battles...but sometimes you have to fight for yourself, too. May you also have a lovely ...Sunday- what's left of the weekend. Take care...stunning photos over at your blog today! love to you <3<br /><br />Marie Isabelle, thanks for reading. I know that you are a mother hen...me too...I like to nest- domestic life...still I have to get out there and do what I should in this life. You express yourself so much in your postcard blog...that's extroverted! Take care xx <3<br />Japra, yes, we do change over time...it makes you wonder if nature or environment is the most impacting factor in personality development...I like to think that we can choose to change as needed...seems more positive. <br /><br />Your own daughter has gone through some of this...the competition and performance...I think performance is enough! It's so stressful for parents...good luck on your move...so exciting...the land of tulips! <3<br /><br />Reveda, lovely of you to visit and answer my questions...I tried to sign your guestbook, too but the computer waves were blocked (or something!) You are a pretty baby, indeed, tell your father that I can appreciate his celebration of your life...love and light surround you always. <3Cynthia Pittmannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12656761837022197235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-80616673272152847042009-05-03T13:13:00.000-04:002009-05-03T13:13:00.000-04:00thank you for visiting my blog....you can follow m...thank you for visiting my blog....you can follow me at http://reveda.blogspot.com/ <br /><br />I am a 6 month old kid with my own blog...the blog is my own narrative in words lent by my father....<br /><br />you can revisit your own childhood in things I do...<br /><br />check out at http://reveda.blogspot.com/<br /><br />thanks againReveda Prisha Umankshi Bhatthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15419352488794839539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-53144093069752387122009-05-03T08:16:00.000-04:002009-05-03T08:16:00.000-04:00Such an interesting and thought provoking post! Oh...Such an interesting and thought provoking post! Oh to be properly balanced... but I tend to be more of an introvert. I'm braver now than in my youth, however ;-)TBMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05587580447766102705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-83200527926647113502009-05-03T04:51:00.000-04:002009-05-03T04:51:00.000-04:00I've always been very introverted and seem to forg...I've always been very introverted and seem to forget about my wants and needs in my family... I'll remember that I need to buck up and be more of a powerhouse about once every 5 months...and then I revert back to my mother henness! Oh well! Wonderful and thought provoking post Cynthia:)Marie Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18071668321977054448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-30299510219406612972009-05-02T15:40:00.000-04:002009-05-02T15:40:00.000-04:00Such a delicate balancing act between pushing ones...Such a delicate balancing act between pushing oneself forward and being trampled on!<br />I ache for you and your daughter.<br />I can be pushy for my children but not for myself.<br />As ever, so thoughtful and interesting.<br />I hate people who 'toot their own horns' a lot -- but if you don't who will.<br />Greetings for a peaceful and lovely weekend.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03964291132366262298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-78068793320133454522009-05-02T14:05:00.000-04:002009-05-02T14:05:00.000-04:00Lynn, thanks for the visit and your comment. Your ...Lynn, thanks for the visit and your comment. Your snail photos today were remarkable...always a gardener's issue...should I set beer out in a little bowl? Is that cruel? Use poison? Go buy some other 'greener' chemicals? Pick them off with my hands? About the comment... teen years? Wow...that song has been around a lot...I heard it in TJ before it was popular, I think. But it had a different feel...more like folk music. We used to visit there a lot when lived in San Diego. Take care...<3Cynthia Pittmannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12656761837022197235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-60576090872912125922009-05-02T12:15:00.000-04:002009-05-02T12:15:00.000-04:00Ms Lucy,
thank you for your comment. I'm think...Ms Lucy,<br />thank you for your comment. I'm thinking about what you said...being in tune with others...I am a kind of people person, too. Eventhough I like to be quiet and reflective...some people wouldn't know it...I disappear when I need quiet. (I go into the hermit stage.)<br /><br />When I'm around people, I'm available for the most part. A friend told me that he was going to say, "You are such a communicator" because I was talking on the phone while walking to my next class, he saw me visiting with people along the way, and I also blog, use Facebook, and promote the documentary about my mother's murder(The Pittmann Puckett Story) by sharing my own experience. <br /><br />I'm often busy with people. In class, in my yoga group, at our cafe Casa Lima, in meetings...still I think of myself as a home centered, quiet, would-be gardener who reads, cooks, 'makes stuff' and writes. <br /><br />I am happy in a quiet environment..but adapt to noise when I have too. Maybe your insight is true...being observant of others can create a 'people person' style of communication. Thank you for your insight. xx <3<br /><br />Paris, yes that can be a problem when you are seen as the Rescuer...I think that is true in the family situation especially...but happens at work situations too. <br /><br />I've found that it is better to signal a boundary either way...help or not...because people understand without being hurt. <br /><br />Recently, I had to explain that I wasn't available (just now) for favors...to a few people who were asking me quite often to edit or help them with a project (behind the scenes). <br /><br />Sometimes I have "over-helped" and that is not good for their own independence (and professional development)-as you so rightly expressed. <br /><br />Thanks for sharing your thoughts. <3Cynthia Pittmannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12656761837022197235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-58231774457114736982009-05-02T12:12:00.000-04:002009-05-02T12:12:00.000-04:00You take me back to my teen years here...La Bamba!...You take me back to my teen years here...La Bamba! Thanks for coming to my blog today, and yes, I like all your owl photos.Lynn Cohenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12094038275377357886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-38137898686044648892009-05-02T11:41:00.000-04:002009-05-02T11:41:00.000-04:00I am learning the balance between being gracious a...I am learning the balance between being gracious and helping other and not helping TOO much. Helping too much can often only hinder the other person's ability to take care of themselves. I have learned, for example, that helping my family members over and over, has only enabled them to be more dependant on me and less INdependant for themselves.<br /><br />Good post!mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04200927211755492605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-26344540238706601322009-05-02T01:03:00.000-04:002009-05-02T01:03:00.000-04:00Thanks for another beautiful post Cynthia. Childr...Thanks for another beautiful post Cynthia. Children are all so different...and that is the challenge and the beauty (believe that or not;) Like you, I too was a sensitive child, but I think that's what made me more of a people's person...bering in-tuned to others. Thanks. You're always so nice..and your comments are worth so much to me:)Lucy https://www.blogger.com/profile/13600064401395449845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-90149111176602163132009-04-30T15:14:00.000-04:002009-04-30T15:14:00.000-04:00Hi Anil, you express an important distinction betw...Hi Anil, you express an important distinction between aggression and assertion. I agree that there is an important difference but it's interesting to realize that the distinction is culturally influenced. <br /><br />If I wear my 'American' hat, I understand the difference well but here in Puerto Rico 'my hat'doesn't fit! I think that the girl who pushed my daughter away from the mike might have been seen by others as a girl who took what she needed...sort of competitive rather than rude. She seemed entitled and overly bold to me but my feeling is shaped by the politeness idea that I have internalized. Friendship, sharing and all that...my daughter pretended that the girl wasn't rude. In my view, that's one way to handle a public situation...unfortunately, it also means that her chance to shine at singing was missed; however, she did shine in her own gentle manner. <br /><br />You bring up another point, that about hightened self perception...I think she and I both are quiet personalities...and we both put on the extroverted self as required! (though it feels a little false.) Take care <3Cynthia Pittmannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12656761837022197235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-36695660737211411412009-04-30T15:00:00.000-04:002009-04-30T15:00:00.000-04:00Hi Linda,
Thank you for the award. It does present...Hi Linda,<br />Thank you for the award. It does present a challenging tasks. I think I will do it. Is your blog still private or is it open to other people? (I ask because of the link requested.) <br /><br />With your family experience, you confirm what some others have said about differences in children---from birth. Do you ever wonder what your own life would have been like if you had different experiences? You started painting as an adult but maybe you were born with the talent and inclination? It's curious to think about what may have sent us one way or another, don't you think? <br /><br />Take care and I hope you feel more relaxed about your son's absence. You will see your grandkids soon...Christmas is not that far away! love to you xx <3Cynthia Pittmannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12656761837022197235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-61981401033395587742009-04-30T10:13:00.000-04:002009-04-30T10:13:00.000-04:00Very interesting post. I would think it helps to b...Very interesting post. I would think it helps to be assertive, and firm instead of being aggressive. Aggression is about intruding into another's territory. Assertiveness is about holding one's territory from aggression.<br /><br />Personalities are different for sure, some are shaped by circumstances, others at birth. Often it is the acute sense of perception (for self) that drives one's behaviour more so the quiet personna.Anil Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02422187314611747278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-77980426955542187742009-04-29T16:42:00.000-04:002009-04-29T16:42:00.000-04:00cynthia , what a question! I raised three kids and...cynthia , what a question! I raised three kids and each as different from each other as night and day...I don't know when I realized some things were out of my control and best left to life to teach that particular lesson...for me, it was WHICH lesson to keep silent on and which to cajole, overrule, teach, train, etc etc...that, for me, is the hard part...and even now, I'm still wondering at times because if you are a parent, the questions never stop coming...at least not yet! ;) <br /><br />I have given you an award but please do not think you must do anything...I just wanted to tell you how much I love your words, your thoughts, your blog...it's stimulating and makes me think, something one always needs!!! so come see, dear cynthia ;) <br /><br />blessings...L'Adelaidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10725322054223364858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-13702553242959030192009-04-29T12:38:00.000-04:002009-04-29T12:38:00.000-04:00French Fancy, an elbow in the ribs!! Ouch! Still, ...French Fancy, an elbow in the ribs!! Ouch! Still, I guess it's like you say...you have to stand up for yourself. I think I was introspective and not attention seeking, which looks (feels?) a lot like being shy. I grew up in a large family of 7 (parents and children)...maybe you saw the photos? I never had to look for friends outside of my sisters and brother. We all got along well...of course with our share of arguments- but we learned from each other. <br /><br />I remember when my younger sister found the courage to jump off of the high dive at the local pool; I decided I must also take the plunge. Knowing that she could be brave, made me sure that I could find the courage too. I guess that's healthy competition. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. <3<br /><br />Vickie, yes, it's getting the balance that's the problem. When I moved to a new culture-Puerto Rico- I came with my hard won confident and comfortable self...and after a few years, I felt that I had the rug taken out from under me. Now I feel 'situated' but it is still difficult sometimes. <br /><br />I suppose you have a similar experience in England/France but the language is an issue here. In your case, language nuances and French are your challenges...maybe cultural differences too? Thanks for commenting! xx <3<br /><br />Natalie,<br />You're facing the challenge now as you teach your children. I imagine that they see you expressing yourself about situations...and that is teaching too. They see that you must connect to your feelings in life...a valuable lesson. Love back to you! xx <3<br /><br />Lori Ann, so true! I mean that it is important to not harm others---and to not harm yourself. I think some of us tend to just over-give/support. <br /><br />Yesterday, I thought about how I "laid down the law" with my son about completing his homework and then I paid for a trendy haircut. As a result, he was not writing his paper, he was getting his hair styled. What a pushover I am sometimes! Now he looks like a startled bird and he hasn't yet finished his paper. I hope you get a chance to see this movie...it's a bit "Hollywood" but in a way that is heartwarming and pleasing. <3<br /><br />Greener Bangalore, thanks for your visit and comment. Come back again soon.<3<br /><br />Artist Unplugged, I certainly agree that life is a teacher...but sometimes it's easier to learn with a bit of a buffer. I remember my first yearning to go to college...I had no idea how to approach it. I didn't even have the courage to ask a school counselor. I decided to go into the Navy so that I could get the GI Bill to pay for my college. I really didn't have a good idea about alternatives. It all worked out fine...but I had a difficult couple of years until I found the strength to stand up for myself. I think I have a tendency to hide how foolish I might feel. Pretend confidence and soon you will feel it- at least that's what I hoped. I think it takes confidence to say- "I'm lost with this-can you help?" I feel more comfortable with the unknown now...I think it's important to push boundaries. Sometimes, I dare myself to swim out past the safe line in the ocean...just being on the outside of a line gives a feeling of freedom and a sense of opening. <br /><br />May your daughter have the opportunity to gain strength and confidence. I'm sure she is talented. xx <3Cynthia Pittmannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12656761837022197235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-18302597272901269772009-04-29T11:37:00.000-04:002009-04-29T11:37:00.000-04:00Rudee, yes, you remember the movie correctly-the o...Rudee, yes, you remember the movie correctly-the older brother (Ritchie's half-brother) was competitive and often unhappy but he was involved in selling drugs and other criminal behavior. Ritchie was the 'good' son and his mom tried to push him to succeed. I understand her challenge but think that she was fair. Your family dynamics are interesting because everyone was so diverse. Often people think of a family as a type, eg. "Oh the Smiths-they are so outgoing." It seems like you all had your own individual personality. Thanks for your comments and reflective thought. I hope all is well in your new home. (We have two more puppies!)<br />xx <3<br /><br />Willow, I never would have thought that you allow people to take advantage. You seem to have the right balance of grace, self-expression, and strength-charming all the way. A learned skill? I wonder if your children grew up confident? Your daughter sings opera and your sons are in college- quite a success. Thank you for responding and do see the movie. It's a good life story movie that connects to a fun music period- early rock and roll. xx <3<br /><br />Catherine, yes, so difficult when people don't acknowledge your artistic worth. Now that you show your creations on the blog, it's clear to all the world that you have an artistic gift! (or at least those of us who read your blog and see your work.) May you have even more success and acknowledgment in this life. Take care and much affection to you. xox <3<br />Lakeviewer, I love your mom's saying. It has an old fashioned but true feel. I still think that those who push too hard end up shaping their personality...like someone who has a chip on their shoulder...always looking for a slight. On the other hand, what happens to people who suffer from discrimination? When you experience a lot of slights, and are not allowed to shine it's natural to become angry. Maybe it's bitterness that is the problem? I appreciate those who fight for the rights of others-expecially if they can accomplish change in a positive way. Btw, I heard that discrimination has lessened in the States and that race relations have improved. Great! <br /><br />I've been away for nearly 14 years but the last place I lived was below the Mason Dixion Line. Sometimes people treated my husband as if he was an uneducated Tyson worker (chicken cleaner) because of his "tanned" look. We decided to leave rather than fight. I wanted my children to grow up without prejudice but then I discovered that there is prejudice everywhere. Thanks for your comment. You made me consider another aspect of the situation. Take care! <3Cynthia Pittmannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12656761837022197235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-90666657930737970752009-04-28T10:15:00.000-04:002009-04-28T10:15:00.000-04:00My daughter is a bit shy too and I hope with exper...My daughter is a bit shy too and I hope with experience and age she will gain strength and confidence. It is hard to teach it to someone, many times, life's lessons are the best teachers!ArtistUnpluggedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13580512807760805224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-71646280831972827242009-04-28T00:45:00.000-04:002009-04-28T00:45:00.000-04:00Wonderful write-upWonderful write-upGreener Bangalorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03694108607605838961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-71827300494065333242009-04-27T23:15:00.000-04:002009-04-27T23:15:00.000-04:00I haven't seen this movie, but I'll try to now. I ...I haven't seen this movie, but I'll try to now. I like looking for the messages or meanings in a film. Thank you for telling us about this. It's a good thing to think about, this point you bring up about confidence. I've tried to teach strenght of self in my children, with a big dose of humility. I don't know if there is the "right" balance. My mantra is hurt no living thing. My self included.<br />♥ loriLori annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02860428306713379828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-261918990960241225.post-43245291712334372052009-04-27T18:42:00.000-04:002009-04-27T18:42:00.000-04:00I would stay back from the microphone, I think, Bu...I would stay back from the microphone, I think, But I would then blog about how much I wanted to smash her!<br /><br />I constantly struggle with this issue in regard to my kids. My teaching of manners and respect for others, has often seen them being pushed around.Hmm.. can't quite get the balance right.<br /><br />Love to you.xx♥Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12919764140075852854noreply@blogger.com